Christian dating after the first date
Dating someone from a different faith can be incredibly rewarding or a disaster of biblical proportions. After dedicating six years to Evangelical Christianity, at 24, I decided to venture into the "real world." I landed on the densely populated isle of O’ahu, Hawaii, where I met a striking doctor-in-training with bone-dry humor, a motorcycle, and a Fu Manchu mustache (it was Movember).
I had recently left the mission field, where my job was to convince people that Jesus loved them.
Eventually, he sent her some Snapchat selfies of his face, and asked her to return the gesture — all before they’d even gone out! These days, it’s hardly unusual for guys and girls to engage in epic pre-first-date texting sessions.
“When we were finally face to face, I kept thinking, ‘Oh, is he depressed since he lost his job?I didn’t want to believe it at the time, but I knew he was right. And yet, there was something that couldn’t keep us apart.A week after he had shed one of his rare tears kissing me that final goodbye, he stood outside the crappy Italian restaurant I was working at and asked if we could "try." And so began the most difficult journey of my life to date.It started with a lot of bluster and confidence, mostly on my part. Converting the "lost" was my profession, after all. I also needed to believe this and needed to tell my worried, but open-handed, parents that although I was breaking the one rule they persistently drill into young evangelical girls (aside from no front hugs) — do not date non-Christian men — I was in control and was going to handle the situation. And while we clung tightly to each other and to the notion that love could conquer all, our relationship descended through multiple stages of hell before it finally came to another end.First, there was the aforementioned "I’m right but you just don’t see it yet" period. Our arguments about how the world worked, whether or not I’d actually witnessed "miracles," and the foundations of morality were emotionally charged.