Gothic women dating
Everyone from my brother (who I considered my best friend) to the hostess at our favorite Italian restaurant (who sat us in the most hidden, secluded corner of the restaurant despite it being empty) tried their very best to steer clear of me. In the years since, I've spent a lot of time thinking about how harshly we judge others based on their fashion choices.We all do it to some extent or another, and I admit to being guilty of it myself — whether toward the cheerleaders at my high school who packed on the foundation or the wannabe hipsters of my university who pride themselves in their ability to recite Howl from start to finish (which, I'll admit, is pretty impressive).I wore a dress that (though I think it's lovely) I'd normally reserve for raving clubs (which, let's face it, isn't my scene at all), and packed on the heaviest makeup I could fathom. In England, there's this word: chav, or chavette for its female equivalent.Though it's somewhat derogatory, it has become used by the general population to refer to a person who is quite loutish and wears a lot of fake designer stuff.It's been a while since I've totally revamped my wardrobe, so this experiment was fun for dress-up reasons as well as its more profound sociological implications.Initially, my plan was to spend a full day dressed up in each look to note people's reactions in person, but I realized that the area of Britain in which I now live is extremely alternative and accepting — the total opposite of the highly Republican New Jersey town where I grew up.Because my "style" has changed so much from childhood to my early '20s, I've seen a lot of mixed reactions from both acquaintances and passersby to all of my different looks, be they punk girl, tomboy or anything in between.That in mind, I thought it would be an interesting experiment to revisit some past fashion choices and see how friends, family and perfect strangers reacted to them now.
Back in 2007 when I took that sociology course, Sophie Lancaster (the 21-year-old girl attacked and killed in the U. by a group of teen boys as a result of her gothic fashion) was headlining the news.So instead, I took to the World Wide Web, creating a dating profile for myself on Ok Cupid.Through the week, I changed my photos daily (all taken in the same location, with the same lighting), keeping the actual bio information unchanged (a single paragraph detailing my love of literature and writing, my obsession with Breaking Bad and Game of Thrones and my desire to meet new people and make some friends.That's kind of what I went for, thus the make-believe bling.There is undoubtedly a lot of stigma toward women who dress what is so often called "provocatively," so I wanted to put this ensemble to the test.