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So what happens when a woman (who is a victim) is depressed, or poorly expresses her own anger or resentment when she tries to explain what’s happening at home?
And what if her husband is calm, cool and collected because he’s an expert at image management and deception? To the counselor, he looks like the “spiritually mature one” and she looks like an angry, unhappy woman. Clever sociopaths have the ability to fool counselors. A second needed disclaimer is that (contrary to the impression your materials give), not all abusers are men and not all victims are women.
If there is no safety for her to disclose without being further abused, how can she be honest?
Also, some abusive men (and women) are very good charmers and liars. As you stated, victims of abuse are not “sinless.” That’s true.
But someone who lives with it day in and day out year after year is the most qualified to define her experience.
I imagine your specific client has given you some examples of what she considers abusive.There are some important cautions and disclaimers which I find lacking in your information (or at least they aren’t obvious).First is the caution that accusing someone of being “abusive”(in any of the various ways) is a serious matter, on a par with accusing someone of embezzling funds or of sexual harassment or of being an alcoholic or a sex addict.With that in mind, while I would not want to in any way question your expertise in the area of “abuse,” I wanted to share some of the reservations I’ve been struggling with as I have looked through your materials on emotional abuse.So as not to waste your time, I’ll jump right in with the following questions.